No Social

I do not have any social media.
I have not had a Facebook account for over ten years.
I have not had Twitter for over five years.
I have not been on Instagram for around a year.
I had, at one time or another, been very active on all of these platforms.

This is a personal choice. Ultimately, I just lost a sense of what value I was getting from the services.

Over the last 5 years I became more introverted, more considered, more private and more secure. This is, I have been told and read, a common part of getting a little older. From this position, I care less about injecting myself into peoples thoughts, keeping myself in their peripheral.

Additionally, my life got more full. It got more complex. I had more responsibility, more things to think about, more people I knew. From this position I stopped wanting to know what people I knew were up to, for the most part these were people who I had relatively tangential relationships with anyway - more acquaintances than “friends”. My close friends and family use whatsapp and text. I also really enjoy finding out what people have been doing when we catch up in person.

On top of these - there are a few ideas

Distraction and Deep Work

I am trying to live with less distraction. I also am becoming a miserable old git and find being in the presence of others who are distracted, deeply frustrating. My own peace of mind, my ability to focus and doing the things I love are things that I care more about now sharing what I am doing.

Reductionism

I am trying to solely form the things I think about, work on, do, how I fill my time based on and those closest to me. The canvas of things that one presents to the world is reduced. The tapestry of a persons life becomes less rich, and ultimately this becomes their life.

Adult Development

Trying to adapt and respond to the responsibilities I now feel I have.

The highest order of Keegans model, is what he terms ‘Self Transitioning’. A self transitioning mind still has a POV, a perspective. However, it is able to turn on itself and see it, to reflect on it, to interrogate it. It is also able do this with other people, to hold multiple perspectives.

I feel as if social media platforms are, by design, keeping people in the loop of socialized and self authoring mindsets. Always trying to assert a point of view and perspective, but also endlessly looking for social validation.

Why do I care if people think this photo or graphic is good. I think its good.

I can see an argument that exposure to a wider range of perspectives supports some self transitioning, but the way reaction and outrage, alongside the filter bubble.